I have nothing against you. So let's take it full circle and look back on
your original post. You quoted ONE sentence and have now built a nearly 2000 word essay defending it. If I didn't know you, and for those scoring at home I have ridden with Rob several times, I would think you were kind of a dick with that reply. As I do know you, and have read you here plenty of times, I assume you are trying to stand in the middle and asking people to play nice. And I genuinely think that you're a nice guy. The next time I see you I will almost surely make a MAGA or a Trump joke. Unless we're meeting in a tent in a prison camp, in which case I will probably cock punch you. I digress.
And I will embrace that joke fully and playfully act as MAGA as I can, all in good fun. The prison scenario, looks like I'll need to be fast and first ask you the capital of Thailand.
I think positively of you as well btw which is why I was caught a bit off guard by your responses. I don't dismiss your viewpoint or anything you said overall, I was just trying to stay on my very simple point.
The point in my replies to you have been building up what it feels like for the OP (and many people) right now. Lots of people are feeling this right now. And my man, they are a little afraid right now. And in that fear, if someone writes ONE sentence that gets quoted with no context of the person or their history, is it possible that the OP was being a little over-stated due to that fear? In all your posts since that one, did that ever occur to you to put yourself in her shoes, which is more or less precisely what you are asking her to do?
I understand all that and is EAXCTLY why I stated this in my original reply: "I don’t know you, so maybe this came out harsher than you meant." Exact quote copy/paste.
Now, there was no reply to that, and she's not required to reply. Since then I've been replying to others who chimed in. And only to the ones that took my statement out of context (at least that's how it looked to me).
I don't know her, and yet my first assumption is she is not like that and did not mean it that way. I always try and assume the positive in people, not default to the negative. But I did want to comment on it because there are absolutely people in this world who think just that way. Oh, that one is awful, anyone like them is the same.
I happen to know that OP far better than I know you. And you want to know something wild? Her husband is historically a conservative. There's another person you're arguing with on this same thread right now that is also traditionally a conservatives. Both of those conservatives, as well as the OP, are probably 3 of my favorite people in the world. And sure, I'm standing on their side, defending them. This is the internet. I would do the same in real life.
See I'm not even taking sides here (not criticizing or saying that you are btw). I'm simply asking a question. Maybe the better way to ask it is:
- Is it acceptable to broadly generalize a group w/ negative characteristics based on their worst members?
It's a simple yes or no, doesn't need buts or excepts or what abouts. If it's not clear, my answer is 100% NO. That doesn't mean I condone the bad ones.
I want you to try and drop the narrative that people are typifying you, or deflecting the point, and put yourself in other people's shoes. In the fear that people live in today, fear for the state of this country and their future, is it possible that one sentence actually understates the concern that people have right now? And while yes, overstated since her husband and 1 of our best friends are not what those words said, might it not hold more truth of the state of affairs than you want to admit?
I too have friends who are staunchly on either side, and I do empathize w/ all of their viewpoints. I get along w/ all of them famously. Hence why I still firmly believe it's terrible to broadly prejudge a large group of people based on their worst.
Asking me for empathy above, but where was the empathy for my statement then? "Hey Rob, do you really support violence against minority groups?" (overly paraphrased of course cuz I have trouble being concise as it is!).
My concern is that there are people out there that think it's ok to judge groups in this way (no not the OP). So, the empathy cuts both ways. And I thought I've been clear that's been my only point the whole time. Don't generalize the masses due to the few. That's also quite frightening cuz it could happen against any of us.
My daughter is half-Asian and goes to school in a red state. Think about that. Why should I have to have a tiny inkling of concern for her safety because of this? That's fucked up. This is our America. This is why people are saying this stuff. Her classmates are being deported and I have to be worried now about hate crimes where she goes to school. So while you sit at your keyboard writing a theses based on quoting a single sentence, some of us are legitimately living that great American dream right now.
This says (to me) you are painting your bias on my simple statement, considering I never went anywhere near that direction. I never suggested you shouldn't have concern. I just said it's bad to generalize, point blank. I would also say it's bad if someone made any negative generalizations against your daughter based on her appearance. I wouldn't have written a 2000-word essay if things hadn't gone off the rails from that simple statement.
It's possible for both of these to be true at the same time:
- it's bad to cast judgment on a large group of people based on their worst members
- the actions of the worst members of said group are unacceptable and cannot be tolerated and allowed to spread