oh we did that at my wedding tooI went to a wedding where the bride rode in on a horse.
oh we did that at my wedding tooI went to a wedding where the bride rode in on a horse.
Ha...so did we. Initially a big wedding planned with all the trimmings, but decided to F that. Instead we went to Vegas for a quick marriage, then a month later a big destination wedding in Aruba with all family and friends...was a total blast. And way cheaper than everything planned up here...but that was over 20 years ago, so YMMV these daysMy wife and I had two weddings. We spent a week in Miami with our closest family and friends and then got married on the beach, had a brief reception, and then hopped on a cruise. We had the big Italian reception a month later in NJ. If you're gonna get married, I suggest two weddings instead of zero weddings.
Pete I have to take us off on a tangent bc im just very curious....But I know at this time your Mom drove a 59 caddy eldorado and you guys also had an XKE.....So im guessing your father made a good living.....what was his objection? Did he think you were too young? Did your wife go to a different Church? I mean jeez, you think he could have spotted you the $25 when hes rolling around in a Jag Of course...most good life lessons are usually ones we REALLY hate in the momentAncient history
My wedding. June 23 1964
I remember saying to my mother and father that I’d like to marry. I had been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half. We now wanted to marry. My mother was OK with it, but not my grouchy old Italian father. His answer was “if you can do it within one week from today I’ll sign the papers”. I wasn’t twenty one years old yet and needed a parents signature to marry. So I took the challenge and managed to make it happen. Tuesday night, six PM, one week to the day at a local church. The pastor was nice and held the flowers over from the Sunday service so it would look nice for us. His fee was twenty five dollars. So I worked my job Monday and Tuesday as usual and then we married at six PM with some family and friends present. My father wouldn’t come, but did say to my mother “if you have anything you want to do tonight, go ahead”. He was a tough old buzzard. So my mom came. There was a small party afterwards at my wife’s parents house and that was it. Back to work on Wednesday, no honeymoon, just back to work as usual. No regrets, a great wife and a great life followed. Just a side note, I was working as a men’s clothing salesman at a mall in Paramus. Ten hours a day for six days a week, pay $1. an hour when I bought the wedding and engagement rings. I got them used at a pawn shop in Newark for $100. That was almost two weeks pay! Then I got a better job, same pay sixty dollars a week, but only eight hours a day for five days a week. Ah! The good old days.
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cheap, right?Your inlaws will make you pay. It's just not in money.
$36k? Holy crap.
He just objected my girlfriend, like no one is ever good enough for your kid to marry kind of thing.Pete I have to take us off on a tangent bc im just very curious....But I know at this time your Mom drove a 59 caddy eldorado and you guys also had an XKE.....So im guessing your father made a good living.....what was his objection? Did he think you were too young? Did your wife go to a different Church? I mean jeez, you think he could have spotted you the $25 when hes rolling around in a Jag Of course...most good life lessons are usually ones we REALLY hate in the moment
My dad married someone outside of the community and it was a big deal. At the wedding my grandmother made the comment "WE'LL SEE HOW LONG IT LASTS".He just objected my girlfriend, like no one is ever good enough for your kid to marry kind of thing.
ok, now i'm curious. Did Dad ever warm up to wifey, or was he always salty? Also, did your wife hold a grudge back?He just objected my girlfriend, like no one is ever good enough for your kid to marry kind of thing.
well I mean in his defense Pete...she doesn't look very Italian My father was 100% italian, my mother is a red headed Irish/swedish women....His parents were equally as excited as it sounds like your dad wasHe just objected my girlfriend, like no one is ever good enough for your kid to marry kind of thing.
Contrast this to me getting married in 2010...one of my older family members asked me what religion my wife was.....to which I responded....I have no idea, I have never asked her.
Contrast this to me getting married in 2010...one of my older family members asked me what religion my wife was.....to which I responded....I have no idea, I have never asked her.
this would have been the way to go if they had ever heard of it......in fact my wife was Lutheran.....so I once asked my father in law who is now 87 why he was Lutheran over some of the other non catholic ones....he said to me: well, we moved into this house in madison in the 1940s, there was a Lutheran church right across the street...So my father announced, we are now Lutheran. Makes me wonder....was choosing your christian religion at this time like choosing your wireless carrier today?You should have said, "The flying spaghetti monster one."
well I hope he charges your less than $25.Well it is official, we'll be getting married on 2/2/2022. The ceremony will be done by our town's mayor who I know pretty well from that time I ran for town council and lost.
Well it is official, we'll be getting married on 2/2/2022. The ceremony will be done by our town's mayor who I know pretty well from that time I ran for town council and lost.
yes. they all suck.Makes me wonder....was choosing your christian religion at this time like choosing your wireless carrier today?
I tell this story a lot because it's funny, but there was a bit of hubbub with some of our older relatives on both sides when they found out we were getting married on a beach and not in a catholic church. We got married by a justice of the peace who happened to be jewish, and we asked if he had a priest outfit and collar and stuff, and he was like yeah no problem. So we have pictures that look like we're being married by a catholic priest on the beach. At our wedding reception in NJ, we had a slideshow of pictures from the actual wedding, including pictures of "the priest." One of my great uncles actually came up to me at the reception, to verify that we did indeed get married by a catholic priest, and I was like, "of course! we have pictures, make sure you don't miss the slideshow." He was very happy.
I read this and was trying to figure out what license you got at church.I had the same reaction from my mom. My wife and I got married at the Valhalla club and she wanted to know what church. "mom, no church, I haven't been to church since I got my license." She kept telling me, " come on, seriously, what church??"
On a side note, I am pretty sure my mom and Aunt secretly baptized my kids.